1) I graduated from FIDM in Fashion Design, degree #3!
2) My birthday of decade #3! I celebrated my 30th birthday dressed as a disco pirate. Naturally.
3) and of course every June, San Francisco Pride
About my graduation:
I’ve got two degrees in Linguistics.
art school was harder than both college and grad school combined.
Since junior high I’ve wanted to be a costume designer.
In 2012 I went back to college for the third time,
this time in what I’ve always wanted to do.
Freelance costume designer here!
Holler at me for my resume and portfolio!
About my age:
It’s been interesting, turning 30.
When people learn my age,
one of the common responses is
“You don’t look 30.”
I understand that’s meant as a compliment,
but that means the inverse is meant as an insult.
…Which means at a certain magical number,
“looking your age” is a bad thing.
I’ve had too many friends die before (I felt it was) their time.
For me, aging is a privilege.
I don’t care to cling to my youth; it is not my source of happiness.
To turn 30, 50, 75, is something I’ll cherish, because
I’d rather be the present me,
emotional and physical scars and all,
than the me that is younger, less damaged, less learned, less “me”.
Living in the SF Bay Area is a luxury I take for granted.
Here, I don’t get shunned for having dyed hair, tattoos, piercings,
and most importantly,
for not adhering to a hetero-normative world view.
I don’t identify as gay or straight.
My current partner is my first male partner in almost 10 years.
People who learn I’m in a relationship with man assume “The Gay Phase” is over.
When people see us together, they assume both of us are hetero.
My group of close friends don’t see sexuality as a defining factor of good friendship (which is why they are awesome).
But it’s also awesome, every June,
to celebrate a huge facet of my identity as a person,
with people who also celebrate themselves,
without judgement or labels.
Like my education, age, and orientation,
a lot of the things people might assume just by looking at me are likely off.
It’s been quite a reality check to realize how far off those assumptions are.